SHE CALLED ME WICKED

 

SHE CALLED ME WICKED.

Written by: CHARIS PRECIOUS

 "Mummy, why are you being wicked to us?", he asked, expecting an explanation.

"Me, wicked?"

I was "over shocked!".

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"How do you mean? What did I do that makes you feel that way?", I asked.

"Mummy, I didn't feel that way. It's my friend( friend here means classmate) that said so. She said you are being wicked to us".

"Really? So what were you two discussing that made her to say that?", I asked.

"Errm, we were discussing and I told her that I used to do chores at home and sometimes even before coming to school. And she was shocked. She said she doesn't do chores at home. So today, she asked me why my mum is being wicked to me?".

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"Hian! Ok. The story is getting interesting ", I muttered within.

"How did you feel when she told you that?Have you ever felt I am being wicked to you?"

"Ah ah! Mummy, I was just laughing when she said that. In my mind, how can you say my mum is wicked? How? Just by doing chores? It didn't make sense to me so I was just laughing," he replied.

So I told him when you get to school, ask that your friend what makes her think that way. He got home and told me, the girl said that she told her mum about me doing chores before school and the mum said the mother is a wicked woman.

In other words, aunty friend just came to display the mindset and teaching of the mum.

PS: Picture: My baby peeling seasoning cubes.💃💃

An eight year old doing one or two things like sweep your room, dress your bed, at home before going to school is wickedness.

Ok na.

"And we turned out ok", in the words of Coach Wendy.

Sincerely, I felt a bit hurt that a mother will utter such words about another mother to a child but I have learnt to know what I let into my heart. 

After having the conversation with my kids and found out they rather found the whole thing amusing and it didn't make sense, I just had my cool.

The good thing is that I do not engage my kids in anything without first explaing to them why. I tell them the why.

So before we started this chores thing, they know first of all it's about building responsibilities and independence skills.

Also, I told them it will enhance their academic abilities too because a lot of learnings take place in chores which I cannot start to enumerate in this post.

Besides, they saw a video where kids of their ages were doing same and got inspired to do same. They saw a six year old even ironing his clothes.

Today, I just remembered this statement that was told me  late last year and I chuckled and wondered at the kind of some mothers raising our Gen Alphas.

For me, I see the statement as a covering up of ignorance and bad mouthing to feel superior. 

But, what's my own?

On this parenting journey, sometimes you'll receive gas gbos from people who do not understand your journey or goal but it's ok. 

We move, regardless.

It'll only get better.

Thank you for listening to my ordeal.😀

Written by: Charis Precious Abisam